Realizing that you may have a sexuality or gender identity that does not align with heteronormative or cis-gender ideals can be daunting. Because of personal fears and social stigma, you may be trapped in a cycle where you take the negative stress of your self-discovery out on others or yourself. In this article, we provide some guidance on what to do when you’re questioning your sexuality or gender identity.
Don’t Feel Pressured to ‘Come Out’
The act of informing others of your sexuality or how you choose to express your gender is something that you must decide on your own time and own terms. The act of ‘coming out’ is a freeing and empowering moment that many persons of the LGBTQIA+ community have experienced; however, it is best done whenever you feel comfortable enough to do it; whether that be now or never!
Talk to Trusted Sources
The violence and discrimination that is perpetrated against persons in the LGBTQIA+ community are overwhelming, as a result, you may be scared to talk to others about your feelings. If you believe that you have open-minded friends or family members that will keep your conversations private, then you should talk to them. But, if you don’t know who to trust, you can always call ChildLine at 800-4321 or 131. We provide a safe, confidential, and non-judgemental space for you to air out any of your concerns.
Remember: You Have a Community
You may feel like you are alone in your struggles, but you are not. There is a whole world beyond your home, school, and community that is overflowing with diverse people who have diverse experiences. Always remember that somewhere out there, some people will love you for who you are, even if you don’t know it yet.
Loving Yourself Comes First!
In this world, your happiness and wellbeing must take priority. There may come a time when the people who are expected to love you unconditionally do not hold up to the task. This is when you must remember that loving yourself and accepting yourself is one of the most important things you can ever do for yourself!